SHANE WACHLIN, Marriage and Family Therapist Intern, Licensed Professional Coach
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate”
My 20’s took me all across the globe and into the remote regions of the American wilderness, from serving four years in the United States Marine Corps to getting my BA in outdoor education to guiding wilderness expeditions for Outward Bound. At Outward Bound I facilitated multi-week trips, combining wilderness, adversity, solitude, and community to draw out the vulnerable parts of the human experience.
It was in these sacred spaces where I first began to be pulled into the gravitational orbit of vulnerability and therapy. I would go on to complete a year and half long professional coaching program through iPEC before beginning my masters in marriage and family therapy at Regis University.
In my graduate work, I’ve come to acknowledge and appreciate our fundamental interdependence. I deeply believe that as we soften to the reality of our need for one another and then learn to negotiate that intimate but precarious space of intimacy and attachment, we can find an abundance of healing and joy! One map I’ve found particularly helpful in navigating this space is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). EFT assumes relationships are resilient and can handle all the bumps and detours life throws at them, so long as we can deeply sense and know that our partner is emotionally available, responsive, and caring. The work of therapy is often to gently journey into parts of ourselves, our partner to discover what leads to getting stuck, how to get unstuck and overall have a deeper understanding of each other and the relationship.
I strive to find balance between the exploration of the human condition with setting aside our inner work to “eat, drink, and be merry”. Sometimes our “work” is to set down the project of ourselves and experience the beauty of life. With that said, I travel internationally often, trail run, bike everywhere I can, compete in trail triathlons and CrossFit and enjoy the stillness of wild spaces.
EDUCATION AND TRAINING
- BA in Outdoor Education – Simpson University
- MA in Marriage and Family Therapy – Expected graduation: May, 2023
- Certified Professional Counselor – IPEC
- Emotionally Focused Therapy Externship: Feb, 2022
- Emotionally Focused Therapy Core Skills: May, 2022 – Jan, 2023
- AAMFT: American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy
- ICEEFT: The International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy
- BCEFT: Boulder Community for Emotionally Focused Therapy
- ICF: International Coaching Federation